What Makes You a Winner?

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“You’re never a loser until you quit trying.”
Mike Ditka

Do you know what the difference between a winner and a loser is?

Is it luck? Talent?
Was the winner raised in a better family?
Had a better childhood?

No, it is none of these. It is much simpler than you think, and yet so many people fail at it.

You will now learn what it takes to become a winner.

Winning and Losing

Let me tell you a story.

Steve and John both live in London. They don’t know each other, but they have one thing in common. They have both found the apartments they dream about, and want to buy them.

Steve and John both want to borrow money from their banks in order to buy their apartments.

Steve goes to his bank and asks for a loan. The bank clerk looks at the amounts of his incomes and expenses. After calculating for a while he turns down Steve’s loan request.

Steve is devastated about this, but accepts that he will not be able to buy his dream apartment. It was never meant for him.

John also goes to his bank, and accidentally this is the same as Steve’s. He meets the same bank clerk, and after a short meeting John gets his loan request turned down too.

However, John doesn’t give up. He returns home and contacts five other banks, and to each one he requests a meeting for a loan. This time he also prepares for the meetings, so he will be more convincing.

At the first of these banks, John’s request is turned down. But at the second, his loan request is granted. He gets his loan, and is very happy.

John can now buy his dream apartment.

What makes these two cases so different?

The Loser

Steve made one attempt, got rejected, and never tried again. He assumed all other banks would treat him the same way.

The Winner

John also got rejected, but in contrast to Steve, he didn’t give up. He wanted the apartment, and was determined to get it. He contacted several banks, changed his strategy by preparing better, and this made him victorious.

The Real Difference between a Winner and a Loser

A loser makes one attempt, and at the first sign of resistance he gives up.

A winner knows he will encounter resistance many times. He sees obstacles as a sign that he is doing something wrong, analyses what happened, and learns from his mistakes.

He knows failure is just temporary, and failing is a requirement for learning. He knows that failure is a valuable lesson that increases his experience, and helps him to improve.

A winner knows that if he keeps doing what he is doing today, he will always get the same result.

He knows that if he wants a different result, he must change his procedure, and do something different.

The only difference between a winner and a loser is
a winner plays until he wins.
Big Krit

If you are a winner, there is nothing stopping you from achieving your dream.

This is a tough question, but I want you to ask yourself: Are you a winner or a loser?


A winner is determined to reach his goal, and continues until he has reached it.
If what he is doing doesn’t give him the desired result, he changes his procedure.

What can you do differently to reach a goal you haven’t achieved yet? Please comment below.

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6 Responses to What Makes You a Winner?

  1. Martin Z says:

    Great article! It’s so true that the people who never gives up is the true winners in life!

  2. Bloom says:

    Great article, I’m going to try and work these tips into my everyday life.

  3. Alex says:

    Hi, Stefan,

    Really insightful article! I was amazed when I realized that it was just that simpe: if you want to win, do not quit. That’s all! Well, of course there are some life circumstances that will prevent you from reaching your goal completely. But I think, it’s 1%. Other 99% of our failure is that we quit before we are actually in the game.

    For a long time I thought that I failed because I had, for example, bad skills or inappropriate character trait or something else like these. But one day I realized that I never win because I quit after the first try! So now I’m consciously trying to trace that trappy behaviour and overcome it.

    PS: Thanks for sharing my article on reddit! Have made a friendly donation of a couple of bucks just to support your blog. Keep on!

    • Thank you for your comment, Alex. If I have had a positive impact on your life, then writing this blog has all been worth it.

      When you know what your goal is, and that you want it, then it is so much easier to stay focused, and overcome obstacles.

      Good luck my friend, and thank you very much for your donation!